Nice Guy poem by Iris Carden
He was a Nice Guy so the bruises when they were showed, were tiny, just fingerprints. A Nice Guy would never hit a woman, so he just yelled at unexpected times and grabbed her very hard instead. He was a Nice Guy so when she complained he would buy her presents. He gave her flowers or things he wanted for himself but gave to her, so she had to be grateful (if she knew what was good for her). He was a Nice Guy so when she cowered in fear and did everything she could to avoid him, he absolutely knew she was having an affair because there was no other possible reason any woman could resist a Nice Guy like him. He was a Nice Guy who would lock her possessions away in the shed. When she said she wanted things back he would tell her she could go and get them, but he would never, ever, tell her where he hid the key. He was a Nice Guy and he made sure everyone around her saw what a Nice Guy he was, and how much he did for her. So when she looked for help or support, people told her how lucky she was to have such a Nice Guy as him. He was a Nice Guy and Nice Guys deserve a little something for being so very, very Nice. So he spent all her money, ran up bills she couldn't pay, and explained to her how selfish she was if she wanted anything at all for herself. He was a Nice Guy and he spoke on her behalf saying what she thought and what she wanted since he was so Nice he knew what she ought to think and feel and believe and she shouldn't have to do that for herself. He was a Nice Guy and she lived in fear but when she saw her children afraid she finally found her strength. She lost everything except them when she started over again. She swore to herself, she'd never fall for such a Nice Guy again. He was a Nice Guy and when she finally left everyone rallied around to support him. Because she was so very cruel to abandon such a Nice Guy as him.
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In Australia, on average, one woman a week is murdered by a current or former domestic partner. Source https://www.ourwatch.org.au/quick-facts/
If you want to know about the women who don’t manage to escape violent men, Counting Dead Women tells the stories of women who die by violence.